Melissa Conrad Stöppler, MD, is a U.S. board-certified Anatomic Pathologist with subspecialty training in the fields of Experimental and Molecular Pathology. Dr. Stöppler's educational background includes a BA with Highest Distinction from the University of Virginia and an MD from the University of North Carolina. She completed residency training in Anatomic Pathology at Georgetown University followed by subspecialty fellowship training in molecular diagnostics and experimental pathology.
Living with cancer presents many new challenges for you and for your family and friends.
You will probably have many worries about how the
cancer will affect you and your ability to live a normal life, that is, to
care for your family and home, to hold your job, and to continue the
friendships and activities you enjoy.
Many people feel anxious and depressed. Some people feel angry and resentful; others feel helpless and defeated.
For most people with cancer, talking about their feelings and concerns helps.
Your friends and family members can be very
supportive. They may be hesitant to offer support until they see how you are
coping. Don't wait for them to bring it up. If you want to talk about your
concerns, let them know.
Some people don't want to "burden" their loved ones,
or they prefer talking about their concerns with a more neutral professional.
A social worker, counselor, or member of the clergy can be helpful if you want
to discuss your feelings and concerns about having cancer. Your urologist or
oncologist should be able to recommend someone.
Many people with cancer are profoundly helped by talking to other people who have cancer. Sharing your concerns with others who have been through the same thing can be remarkably reassuring. Support groups of people with cancer may be available through the medical center where you are receiving your treatment. The American Cancer Society also has information about support groups all over the United States.
For more information about support groups, contact the following agencies:
American Cancer Society
National Cancer Institute, Cancer Information Service
1-800-4-CANCER [(800) 422-6237)]
TTY (for caller who are deaf and hard of hearing)
American Urological Association
Bladder Cancer Advocacy Network