Melissa Conrad Stöppler, MD, is a U.S. board-certified Anatomic Pathologist with subspecialty training in the fields of Experimental and Molecular Pathology. Dr. Stöppler's educational background includes a BA with Highest Distinction from the University of Virginia and an MD from the University of North Carolina. She completed residency training in Anatomic Pathology at Georgetown University followed by subspecialty fellowship training in molecular diagnostics and experimental pathology.
"It isn't for the moment you are struck that you need courage, but for the long uphill battle to faith, sanity, and security," said Anne Morrow Lindbergh. Each of us must work through our grief in our own way. We deal with losses as individuals, and ways of so dealing vary widely. We must each deal with grief at our own pace, appreciating that there will be ups and downs, and that healing takes time. You will know when you are getting better.
Allow yourself to experience the pain of grief.
Having someone to share grief with may well be helpful if you are the type of person who likes to talk. You may feel comfortable in confiding feelings to a friend, family member, member of the clergy, or health professional.
A support group may help, even though you may feel worse after the first sessions. Do not stop attending.
Read uplifting books or articles.
Keep a diary or journal.
Do not hesitate to talk about the person who died, and encourage others to talk of the person who died.
You may wish to talk out loud to the person who died.
Avoid seeking relief through alcohol, smoking, medications, or drugs.
If you are having trouble sleeping, get up and read or, if possible, take a nap during the day to catch up on your much-needed sleep.